Your relationship with your mate has grown distant. The timing couldn’t be worse. You’ll be spending a lot of time over holidays together with family and friends, but nobody except the two of you knows there’s trouble in paradise.
It’s not your season to feel jolly but you don’t want to dampen everyone else’s holiday cheer. The challenge is putting on the appearance that you’re the happy couple everyone knows you to be. You’ve never felt so alone standing side by side.
How will you keep it “together” at his parent’s house? At the holiday dinner table? Opening presents? Clicking glasses of Champagne and exchanging kisses when the clock strikes midnight on New Year’s Eve in a room full of people you know? Do you feel like decking your mate’s best friend instead of decking the halls?
Relationship limbo could be the biggest acting job you’ll ever perform. Will you bottle up the hurt, anger, resentment … or is there another way to handle the disconnect between what other eyes see and what’s really behind it?
Problems can feel overwhelming and emotions can heighten during end-of-the-year festivities. Practice how to react and respond calmly to various situations. You’ll just feel worse by adding more fuel to the fire. Discuss how you both want the holiday to proceed and don’t get roped into your partner’s plan just to avoid conflict.
And remember, like everything else, the season will pass, things will quiet down, you’ll work out a solution, and fill others in on it when you’re ready.